I cover Julius and kiss him goodnight then return to the sofa to cover Ray and give him his goodnight kiss. Early on, I had Ray sleep on his mat in the kitchen behind the baby gate because I didn’t want him nosing around the crate and making Julius feel trapped or threatened. While I still keep them separated like that during the day when we are at work, I have found that Julius seems to take comfort in having Ray sleep close by, so this has worked out well.
There is another bedtime routine however; it’s an alternate arrangement for when Kevin is out of town for work. It’s Ray’s special time as we go out for the last potty break and I say, “After potty, you can go night-night with Mommy.” During the first week or two that Julius was living with us, Kevin went out of town and Ray and I had our usual little slumber party. I felt that this was Ray’s special time and I was not going to offer the opportunity to Julius for quite a while.
This past week, though, we started out with our usual routine, we tucked Julius in his crate and Ray and I headed upstairs and settled in for the night. Or so I thought. Ray lay down at the end of the bed, facing the door instead of in his usual spot and after a few minutes I heard it: Julius was whining. It was such a sad pitiful little cry, that it melted my heart, but I wanted the choice to be Ray’s. I said to him, “Should we go get Julius?”
We got up and Ray ran downstairs to Julius’ crate door, so I let him out and both boys headed back upstairs and were lying in bed before my aged legs made it down the hallway. I love how Ray is bonding with Julius like that. Although at TV time, Ray still is the one who gets to lie on Mommy’s lap, he is willing to have Julius nearby and they slept well together. Even better is that they both went back to the original sleeping arrangements without a thought when Kevin returned home.
Do your pooches get special or different privileges when one parent is away?